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Thursday, December 5, 2013
My Apostolate to the Immodestly Dressed Woman
sisters, this was the way it was.
lamps mounted on a fake brass pole spread their light over our cozy 1960s
living room in Southern California. My grandmother was visiting and telling us
about her trip to the beach.
wearing her usual shapeless grey dress, and only women were present (my mother
and I), so she felt emboldened to tell us the shocking tale. Women were going
to the beach in something called a bikini. “Grandma,” I said innocently, “What
is a bikini?” Sort of like, “Grandmother, what big teeth you got.”
was no wolf in Grandma’s clothing; this was the real enchilada, my Grandmother.
So she cut a line on her shapeless grey dress to show me exactly what was and
what wasn’t covered by that little piece of cloth called the bikini.
and I were truly shocked. (Although I am laughing at this moment.) And we had
no idea someday I would have a son, and he would have to quit going to the pool
– by his own choice -- because of that inviting piece of cloth!
nowadays the poolside attire has moved into the Catholic Church, and my son and
husband must hang their heads and cover their faces when they attend Mass or
stand in line for Confession, which we do weekly.
but true. And if I had never married I would have no idea that anything was
wrong.Maybe other women look at women’s
clothing, but I mostly think ... about
other things. But that was before I was married. My husband taught me that men
are sight-oriented and if they are chaste, they don’t want to see women in the current
I love to
eat out, and unfortunately, some of the restaurants with good food also have
female waitresses with extremely short skirts. My husband would not go back
there.Life with a chaste man is
difficult when you are a glutton.
decades after my husband got me to stop wearing Southern California attire to
daily Mass (long modest shorts and sandals) -- now I notice it all.I was standing in line for Confession a
couple of years ago and I noticed a man with two gorgeous women standing in
line behind me. I thought they were his daughters. Little was covered in their
bothered me. Should I say something or shouldn’t I? Luckily, I was in line ahead
of them, so I asked the priest. He gave me an answer I didn’t understand at the
time. He said, “You must follow your conscience.”That’s the same thing Pope Francis said
recently, and I noticed that many traditional Catholics were upset, thinking
that he was promoting relativism.
husband is studying theology so I have since found out that St. Thomas Aquinas
was the one who said that originally. He
said we must always choose the good, and he assumed we had a well-formed
conscience. Well, the priest just heard my confession so I guess he concluded I
had one of those.But at that point I
didn’t understand it, so I said to Jesus, “Well, he didn’t tell me I couldn’t
went, looking the father in the eye because I knew he knew they shouldn’t be
dressed like that. And I said, “Sir, you have the most gorgeous daughters I
have ever seen.” Wow, was that ever the Holy Spirit! Only one was a daughter,
the other was his wife!
said after that was going to be okay with the Missus, and she apparently ruled
the roost. So I told them they needed to cover up because there were chaste men
here and it was hard for them to keep their focus on Jesus with them dressed as
they were. They nodded smiling.
it’s more than that, sisters. Sometimes it’s seems like today’s fashions use
the same lures as the clothing of the hookers on the street corner. We have to
remember that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit. “Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is
outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body. Or do you not
know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have
from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price:
therefore glorify God in your body.” (1 Cor 6:18-20)
recommending this apostolate to everyone, especially if you look down on our
immodestly dressed sisters. I can’t look down on anyone because I had no
father, and no one told my mother how I should dress when I was in high school.
That was the early ‘70s. I wore a mini-skirt
with my hair down to the end of my skirt. But one Sunday, I distinctly remember
wearing it in the Communion line on the way up to receive Jesus, and I felt
ashamed. I never wore it again.
So for the
guys, let me explain. Women do not understand what they are doing ... when they
dress like that. They can’t. I’ve seen them as Eucharistic Ministers, handing
out Communion, wearing the new princess style -- a see through skirt – long in the back and very short in the
front. There is a mini-skirt sized slip underneath, so don’t worry. It covers
female, God made us to complement one another.My husband and I recently discussed marital relations, and I asked him
what it meant to him, and he answered “bone-deep consolation.” Well, it isn’t
that for the woman, it’s attention. Men are wired to look, and women are wired
to be looked at.
dress, wear perfume, put dangly earrings on, pink hair clips, and even late in
life religiously get their hair done for male attention. They bat their eyes
for the same reason, and move their hips. Notice me! That is being female.
in the fatherless society that we live in, that makes life hard for the chaste
male. And women don’t even realize the great harm they are causing others, and
themselves if their dress makes an unchaste male draw the wrong conclusion
about their character.
I think I
might just print a copy out of this article and keep it in my purse to hand it
out next time I run into a sister who has not been informed of the dangers of
immodest dress. It will save me and my dear sister a lot of personal embarrassment.
In fact, I
think I’ll start by giving my pastor a copy. FANTASTIC VIDEO: Actress Christian Jessica Rey gives a beautiful perspective on modesty. THE TRUTH ABOUT BIKINIS