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Sunday, April 15, 2018

It Can Happen to You! In fact, It Has!

Sermon by Fr. Joseph Mungai, FMH
Third Sunday of Easter, April 15, 2018
Hospital Chaplaincy, Long Island, New York

A New York cop named Charley is having coffee in a little diner. When he is finished, he reaches into his pocket to pay
the tab and leave the usual tip—but he finds that he has just enough
money to pay for the coffee.

Embarrassed, he offers the waitress a choice. He promises to return the next day with
double the usual tip or, taking a lottery ticket out of his billfold and holding it up, he promises to split the winnings (if any) of the lottery ticket he just purchased for that evening’s drawing.

Now, this was one day when Yvonne, the waitress, really didn’t need to hear all this. She has had a bad enough day without losing a tip on the job. In fact, her life has been in the pits for a while. She has come to hate her job as a waitress. Her runaway husband has run up her credit card balance so high that, just that afternoon, she had been in court to declare personal bankruptcy. Could things get any worse than this?

Still, she decides to be good natured about Charley’s proposition. She smiles helplessly at all of her bad luck, forfeits the cop’s promise of tomorrow’s pocket change and jokingly takes Charley up on his offer of half the lottery ticket’s potential winnings. 

Well, if any of you saw this movie, then you know that the lottery ticket beats the incredible odds and brings in four million dollars! Charley comes to the diner the next morning to give Yvonne the good news. Her tip for serving a cup of coffee is not a mere two bits—but two million dollars! Well, you can most imagine Yvonne’s reaction to this good news. At first, utter disbelief covers Yvonne’s face. She exclaims: “No. No. Why are you doing this to me? Is this some sort of cruel joke? No. It couldn’t happen!”

Then, as Charley insists he is not joking, a tiny flicker of hope registers deep inside Yvonne. She dared, just for a moment, to believe that Charley’s good news for her might be true. “Yes? Yes?” she asks with her eyes widening with joy. “Can it really be true?” 

But disbelief quickly wedges its way back into Yvonne’s mind. She had, after all, only yesterday accepted her fate: personal bankruptcy. “No! No!” she says, shaking herself back to reality. Her emotions are a slowly congealing mix of belief and disbelief. But, facts are facts. Charley’s gift was really, genuinely hers. So, ultimately, we spectators know that her joy will eventually overshadow and overcome all her doubts. 

Yvonne’s glimmer of belief grew stronger as Charley’s smile and excitement gradually thawed her skepticism. Charley’s smile was saying: “It could happen. It did happen. It has happened to you!” With her doubts finally cast away, Yvonne’s question now turns into cheerful exclamation: “Yes! ” As the largeness of Charley’s gift grips her, the waitress suddenly finds herself dancing, swirling through the tables of customers, contemplating her new life—a life forever changed by Charley’s free gift. This little New York diner is now the scene of unexpected, overwhelming, hard-to-believe joy.

Now, let me take you to another scene of unexpected, overwhelming, hard-to-believe joy. This story comes—not from New York City via Hollywood—but from the Sacred Scriptures. It comes from the Book of Luke and it is our Gospel Reading (
Luke 24: 35-48) for this 3rd Sunday of Easter. The scene here is not unlike that little New York diner. 

We find the apostles re-gathered in an Upper Room in Jerusalem. They had been in great confusion Easter Sunday night. Jesus’ tomb was empty. Some of the women who were
Jesus’ followers had talked with an angel who assured them that Jesus had risen. Mary Magdalen herself had seen Him early that morning in the garden. Later that same day, the risen Jesus had appeared to two other disciples, walked and talked with them, and then broke bread with them and revealed the Scriptures to them. Then He disappeared.

All these reports were more than what the apostles could comprehend—in light of what had taken place that tragic Friday night. Their leader was dead. Their hopes that Jesus would redeem Israel were bankrupt. Although they were found gathered together for some refreshment, they had really come together to accept their fate. Like Yvonne, the waitress in the New York diner, there was nothing else for them to reach for. The only thing left to do was to accept things just the way they were.

The two who were on the Road to Emmaus, having just returned to Jerusalem were giving the rest something new to imagine. 
With excitement growing in the conversation about this latest report, Jesus suddenly appears in their midst. All of them were surprised, shocked, caught in disbelief, even embarrassed, realizing that they had all abandoned Jesus when he was arrested. 

No wonder the first thing Jesus says to them is: “Peace be with you!” He has come to dispel their doubts about whether they could believe what they were seeing; to assure them that they were not seeing a ghost by inviting them to touch Him and feel real flesh and bones; to break bread with Him after He is risen just like He broke bread with them before he was arrested. He was not beating on the door of their Upper Room, but knocking on the doors of their inner hearts to let them see that he is risen just as he had promised. He also wanted to let them know that they, too, will rise some day just as he had promised them.

This first appearance of the risen Christ to His  followers makes a very clear statement: “It could happen! Not only could it happen, but it has happened and it has happened to you!”

How were the disciples to receive such glorious news? “In their joy,” Luke writes, “they were disbelieving and, still, wondering.”
Pay close attention, if you will, to exactly what Luke is describing about what was happening in the hearts of the disciples. Their minds may have been confused about what was going on, but their hearts were filled with joy! No matter what had happened—no matter what they were thinking—no matter what fears and worries may still be abounding—the appearance of Jesus before them instilled within them instantly a joy

Church, let it be known that the apostles were experiencing, for the first time,what “Easter joy” is really all about. You see, this Easter joy is the joy I’m talking about when we sing about a joy–joy—joy—joy deep down in my heart; when we tell somebody: “He’s the joy of my salvation! Yes, he is;” when you hear somebody say: “I get joy when I think about what He’s done for me;” when the saints of God stand up and testify: “This joy that I have, the world didn’t give it to me! Since the world didn’t give it, the world can’t take it away!”

I’m talking about a joy, Church, that’ll make you jump up when you’d rather sit still! It’s 
a joy I’m talking about that’ll keep you smiling in the midst of suffering! A joy that’ll help you
hold on to your hope in the face of despair! A joy that assures us we don’t
have to worry about the gravity of death ‘cause what awaits us is the glory of resurrection! It was the heavenly Easter joy they had two thousand years ago, and it’s the same Easter joy we have two thousand years later. 

It is most important for us to know why this particular text has been selected for
 us to hear on the Third Sunday of Easter in the Church’s liturgical year. Centuries ago, this Sunday became known as Jubilant Sunday. This Sunday was seen as Easter’s Encore Sunday—a time for the Church to celebrate all over again the joyous news of Easter.This is Easter re-visited! It’s as if, in the tradition of the Church, this wobbling between disbelief and joy is re-enacted. Last Sunday, the Second Sunday of Easter, was known as Low Sunday. At that point, the wonder of Easter morning was just so staggering—so hard to believe. In the familiar Gospel text of the doubting Thomas story, we were reminded
of the difficulty in believing such impossible news, of wavering between faith and futility, of how hard it is to accept that the impossible has come true. 

 We can almost imagine the thinking of the disciples at that time. “How can this be? Such a glorious thing is impossible. It could not happen.”

This Third Sunday of Easter, however, is a time when the good news is just now
 sinking in and we begin in jubilation (on this Jubilant Sunday) to dance among the tables like Yvonne in the movie, realizing that our lives are forever changed.

Why? Because, not only could it happen, it did happen to you and to me! The Good News of the Resurrection is just beginning to sink in. The Good News that the agony and death of Jesus, the darkness of the tomb, the glory of His resurrection all happened for you and for me! As that message sinks in, our joy and celebration will not be quelled.
This is why, when Easter finally comes, we “pull out all the stops” in our celebration. We really cannot allow the happenings of church worship to be too ordinary, too common, too everyday. The Church is alive and we need to show ourselves alive with Easter joy, conveying a truth so great that the world can only wonder at the overwhelming generosity of God’s gift.

So, let us celebrate with joy, with jubilation, with exaltation—the fact that Jesus is alive!

Occasionally, someone desperately sensing the bankruptcy of their heart, hears with wonder the glorious message of God’s gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ's death and resurrection. They can’t believe that God would be so overwhelmingly generous to them. They “disbelieve with joy.” 

In the movie, when Yvonne finally accepted Charley’s message, she asked: “Why? You don’t have to give me this gift. Why are you doing this?” Charley’s reply is classic: “Because a promise is a promise.”

Church, this is the best part of the Good News that we can take home with us
 today! When we accept God’s great gift, we might ask a question similar to Yvonne’s.“God, why are you doing this for me? I am so unworthy of such a gift.” Listen to God’s response to our questions and to our situations: “Because I have promised—and a promise is a promise. Long ago, in the Garden of Eden, your parents fell into disobedience. As a result, death came upon all humankind. Even then, I promised to send a Savior—the seed of the woman—to crush the head of the serpent. It has now come to pass. It has happened. Death is defeated. Death has been swallowed up in victory! It could happen—and it did happen—to you!”

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My brothers and sisters, we are a people of the Resurrection! We must know that death has been swallowed up in victory! Whatever the problem we are going through, know that there is a victory because a promise is a promise!

With this kind of Easter joy, each and every one of us can stand up and say: “Every time I feel like life is becoming too burdensome to bear, I’ve decided that I’m gonna keep on livin’ anyway—because Jesus told me that he came that I might have life—life to the full—and a promise is a promise!”

Each and every one of us can stand up and say: “Every time I face another 
disappointment because of somebody
else’s mess, I’ve decided that I won’t stop singing and I won’t stop smilin’ because
Jesus said: ‘Rejoice and be glad, for the kingdom of heaven is yours!’—and a promise is a promise!”

Each and every one of us can stand up and say: “Every time I have to deal with 
those who are into putting self over the Saviour  every time I encounter resistance to the ministry I’ve decided that I’m gonna keep on serving because Jesus said: ‘Whoever places themselves last in this world will be first in my kingdom!’—and a promise is a promise!”

Each and every one of us can stand up and say: “Every time I find myself 
pressured to live by the social standards of others, offended by the insensitivity of others, accosted by the evil tactics of a few, avoided by the blind ignorance of the fearful, opposed by the selfish intentions of the powerful, I’ve decided that I’m gonna hold on and hold out—because I want to get to that place Jesus talked about when he stood in trial before Pilate and told him: ‘My kingdom is not of this world!’—and a promise is a promise!”

With this kind of Easter joy, each and every one of us can stand up and say: “Every time I see myself dealing in doubt, wallowing in weakness, hangin’ with the hoodlums, every time I find myself sinking into sin, I gonna turn to Him and give it all to Him 
‘cause I need to hear him say: "This day, you shall be with me in paradise!’ —and I know that a promise is a promise!” 

Yes, Lord, it can happen to us! It has happened to us! It, still, happens to us
 because a promise is a promise! So, you can be sure that I’m gonna
—sing when the Spirit says sing!
—shout when the Spirit says shout!
—laugh when the Spirit says laugh!
—serve when the Spirit says serve!
—run when the Spirit says run!
—preach when the Spirit says preach!
—rise when the Spirit says rise!
—live when the Spirit says livebecause a promise is a promise! 

Because of everything You have done for me, Lord, this is the everything I’m 
gonna do for you! Church, let it happen for you! Let it happen for me! Let it happen for all of us—because a promise is a promise! God promised it—I believe it—and that settles it! You see, a promise is a promise! Amen.


Sunday, April 8, 2018

God is Merciful for that is His Nature

Sermon by Fr. Joseph Mungai, FMH
Divine Mercy Sunday, April 8, 2018
Hospital Chaplaincy, Long Island, New York


We cannot talk of the mercy of God without believing in Jesus Christ as the Son of God who accomplished this mercy in its purest, highest and most loving form.

"Who indeed is the victor over the world but the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?" (1John 5:5) In the divine mercy chaplet we repeat the phrase "for the sake of his sorrowful passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world." The entire Easter celebration is about the mercy of God. 

Christ came through water and blood and from these we have the fountain of mercy.
(John 19:34) This mercy of God has been extended in time and space and in eternity; "for his love endures for ever." All sacraments acclaim this mercy particularly Baptism, Eucharist and Confession/Reconciliation.

Jesus himself mandates His Apostles to extend the Mercy of God to people. "Receive the Holy Spirit. Whose sins you forgive are forgiven , and whose sins you retain are retained." (John 20:23) Any Christian who believes in Jesus and in God must also believe in the Sacramental Mercy of God exercised by Jesus Himself through the Holy Spirit in the person of the ordained minister. 

Many Christians, Catholics and non-Christians continue to be doubting Thomas's. They don't believe in the Sacrament of Confession/Reconciliation which is truly the work of the mercy of God. While Thomas doubted that Jesus was alive, visible and risen; we in our turn doubt the same. If we
don't believe in sacramental absolution for our sins or approach the sacrament with fear, then we fail to recognize the risen Lord. And if Christ never rose from the dead it means the mercy of God was in vain.

The mercy of God becomes a mission of being sent out.
"As the Father has sent me, so I send you." (John 20:21) Pope Francis -- in the concluded Year of Mercy 2016 -- appointed priests from all over the world and sent them as "missionaries of mercy." These were to be "living signs of the Father's readiness to welcome those in search of His pardon." (Misericordiae Vultus). 

As God shows us His mercy, we also go forth looking for those who need God's mercy. Every now and then we are invited to come for confession. The priests visit the parishes and churches to offer the possibility of the mercy of God. The mission applies also to those who are not ordained ministers. All who are children of God ought to love one another and forgive each other. This is obedience to this mercy of God. "Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ is begotten by God, and everyone who loves the Father loves also the one begotten by him." (1John 5:1)

"In this way we know that we love the children of God when we love God and obey his commandments." (1John 5:2)
 Celebrating the mercy of God does not mean sinning so that his mercy may be shown upon me. It means striving to be obedient to God's command and allowing His mercy to overpower us when --due to our human weakness -- we fall.

The mercy of God is the greatest victory over death, sin, darkness, evil and satan. We are therefore conquerers of the 

mercy of God. "For whoever is begotten by God conquers the world. And the victory that conquers the world is our faith." (1John 5:4) The fact that we believe in Jesus Christ as the Son of God who came to save us from our sins, then already we are victors and fruits of this mercy. How do we become sharers of this mercy of God? 


Since we are followers of Christ we must be witnesses to the society, church, family, nation and the entire world. We must be merciful to those in need and share the God given resources with others.

Being merciful doesn't mean sympathizing with sin, but the sinner; nor sympathizing with falsity, corruption, injustice, but truth, justice and peace. The first Christian community had one soul and one mind. "With great power the apostles bore witness to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus, and great favor was accorded them all." (Acts 4:33) It needs a merciful heart to

sell ones possessions and share them with others. It needs a person of strong faith in the risen Lord to do so. "My strength and my courage is the Lord, and he has been my savior."(Is.12:2) Christians have power to conquer the world through Him who conquered it first.

The Resurrection of Christ is the source of all unity, forgiveness and peace. The first words to His disciples are "Peace be with you." What is peace if not foremost reconciliation and mercy of God. Even when today some nations remain at war, terror within or from
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outside, the peace of God still prevails. God was not pleased in those days by the blood of any animal/human sacrifice to bring peace and forgiveness to the world. There is no need therefore to continue shedding human blood as if it is to save anyone from their sins. Only the blood of Christ son of God is sufficient. 


Be merciful on us Lord.

Readings for the  DIVINE MERCY SUNDAY -- 2nd Sunday of Easter. (Acts 4:32-35; Ps 118; 1Jn 5:1-6; Jn 20:19-31).

Friday, April 6, 2018

Marital Intimacy is Worth the Risk

After Four Forced Abortions,
Ballerina Chooses Life!


by Susan Fox 


Oh she was lovely, the perfect ballerina. But her mother wanted her to stay that way.

So my dear young friend, danced and played and frolicked — with many men.

She got pregnant. Her mother forced her to have an abortion so that her perfect figure would not be marred.

She got pregnant again, and had another forced abortion.

She got pregnant again, and again. In all, she had four abortions, and then she slipped from her mother’s leash and married her dearly beloved Robert, a virgin. He adored her. He had lived a chaste life before marriage, waiting to meet her. When I knew her, we called her the one-armed bandit because she always had her baby daughter in one arm while her other arm was busy doing other things.

She loved her husband. I watched her straighten his tie with deep affection. But she was long past enjoying conjugal intimacy. She told me she was burned out sexually because of her promiscuous life before marriage. 

So she explained to me how they had relations. There are positions in sexual intercourse that are not uncomfortable, but which do not require the active participation of the female partner. The man is able to reach a climax, and his wife need not be involved in the conjugal act.

This story still makes me sad. Intimate relations that give pleasure to both married partners is a gift one spouse surrenders to the other. It is the gift of chastity. Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person and thus the inner unity of man in his bodily and spiritual being, according to the Catholic Catechism. It’s worth fighting for. 

“Sexuality becomes personal and truly human when it is integrated into the relationship of one person to another, in the complete and lifelong mutual gift of a man and a woman.” (CCC 2337) The Catholic Church is not talking about faking a response.

Jane was cheating Robert out of something important — her female passion responding to his masculine initiative. They were not using contraception. They were married, in love, and wanted children. But Jane had previously used men and been an object of use by men, and now she was left with no enthusiasm for sex.
Concerning Jane and Robert’s situation, Pope Saint John Paul II said “From the viewpoint of loving another person, from the position of
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altruism, it must be required that the conjugal act should serve not merely to reach the climax of sexual arousal on one side, but happen in harmony, not at the other person’s expense, but with that person’s involvement.”

Strangely enough the Jewish founder of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud, (1856-1939)  agreed with the Catholic Church on this one point: sexual intimacy should be altruistic. It should combine affection and desire, but a mature person will want, altruistically, the good of his or her partner. And that means both participate in the act. 

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Freud and Pope Saint John Paul II said these things so that people like Jane and Robert would have a guideline on how to lead happy lives. St. Paul cared too, warning couples, “Do not torture your wife! Or your husband!” 

I'm joking. My marital chastity professor often speaks of historical figures who "tortured" their spouses by withholding sex because of scruples. The exact quote of St. Paul is this: “The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.” (1Cor 7:3) I knew a priest who ran into a couple arguing about this issue in a restaurant. She wanted to stop having intimate relations so she could pursue her prayer life. The priest leaned over their table and told the wife she was wrong. 

Jane’s problem obviously stemmed from the poison in our culture . She rebelled against her
mother by engaging in relationships with multiple partners. Affectionate families are more likely to raise virgins. The poor little dancer did not receive love at home, only adoration for her outward appearance and her ability to perform. I think Robert could have and may have changed that little by little because he did love her. He didn't treat her as an object of use. He treated her as a beloved person,
with whom he intended to stay married exclusively until death. They were both open to new life. That is the Catholic definition of true marriage.

In his article on “Erotic Traps,” famous German sexologist Ulrich Clement  explains  that diminished desire in sexual intimacy is not a lack but a symptom. That’s true. We are talking about a pair of young newlyweds in which the bride does not enjoy sex because of her previous lack of chastity and multiple abortions. 

He also notes that partners fail to communicate about their differences in sexual desire to protect themselves against the risk of being hurt.  Did Jane tell Robert about her trick of not participating? It was something
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she whispered to a female friend on the side. And would Robert, who never had sex before, know something was missing? Maybe with experience and maturity, he would recognise it. Men are thrilled by the noises their wives make when they are responsively involved in their lovemaking.

It’s interesting the way Clement begins his article: “Some people have often firm conceptions, such as the fact that sex must be or should be present in a relationship. But with these conceptions they are building traps, in which the desire is slowly misplaced.” Perhaps the trap in Jane’s relationship with Robert is that they did need a long chaste courtship before marriage. Sex was not immediately necessary. But given her past, it probably didn’t occur to her to insist on such a thing.

Clement is right. If the couple does not bring the underlying problem to the surface and talk about it, it will have lamentable effects in the erotic context. But it need not destroy the marriage especially if the couple had children and practiced Natural Family Planning earlier in their marriage.  NFP has a honeymoon effect.  


What if Jane and Robert later tried Natural Family Planning to postpone a pregnancy after the baby was weaned? This might
have helped their sexual relationship. Jane needed a period of romantic abstinence. She needed courtship without sex. She needed to know she was loved for herself. 

Using NFP, one must abstain for a few days from intercourse during the woman’s fertile period and then one can engage in marital intimacy the rest of the cycle. Practicing NFP requires mutual decision making and deeper communication. Robert might have finally found the key to open Jane’s heart to loving sexual intimacy.

“If the couple does not change their sexual behavior pattern, then they will continue having problems involving sexuality. With certain painful, but nevertheless trusted discontent, the couple remains in the foreseeable comfort zone of their relationship,” Clement wrote. 

Certainly this is true for many couples. Suddenly, the husband of one my friends quit having relations with her and wouldn’t tell her why. Communication in the marriage deteriorated. It appeared they were headed for a divorce, not by her choice.  When a spouse suddenly stops having conjugal relations without explanation these questions arise “Do you still love me? Are we still together?” Many times the problem is a medical one, and the spouse with difficulty is unable to speak about it.

Clement writes about a routine quality in everyday sexuality. Couples who use NFP rarely feel sex is a duty. His viewpoint is the  product of the sexual revolution, pornography, the deadening of hearts, the depersonalisation of conjugal life. 

It is the breaking of the "nuptial bond between man and life" as outlined by Gabriel Marcel in the Mystery of the Family. In short, modern man is bored. Marcel wrote in 1942 about human
beings losing a sense of reverence and awe for life itself because of the dissolution of the family through divorce, contraception, abortion, promiscuity, unchastity, treating man as a machine whose sexuality can be fixed with a pill. Chaste married relations without contraception, open to new life, are rich with joy. Throughout the years of a long relationship, a thousand ways to delight one another will occur to the couple. And only a few of those involve actual sexual intimacy.

Sexologists are not trained to take this perspective. They realise conjugal intimacy happens between persons, but it is not their starting point. Sexual ethics cannot be sexology, a view of man and woman that posits the problem exclusively from the point of view of “body and sex,” wrote Pope Saint John Paul II in Love and Responsibility. “The only fully true view is the one that proceeds from a thorough analysis of 

the fact that a woman and a man are persons, and that their love is a reciprocal relation of persons.” Sexology, focusing on biology, medicine and the efficient climax, can only provide a partial view of the matter.

Many fear that communication about a problem of this nature will risk the relationship, according to Clement. But isn’t the reward of a lifelong happy marriage worth the risk? 

“From nothing, nothing comes. Without investment there is no result,” Clement admonished. I think it is well worthwhile to continue intimate relations throughout the entire marriage barring illness or the rare case when the mutual decision is made to live celibate for the glory of God.

In old age, the NFP couple will already be habituated to voluntary abstinence, so the necessity of living without sex in the midst of illness will not be an undue stress on the marriage. However, if one wants to continue that side of the marriage, the couple must take action. 
“The longer a relationship lasts, the more is eroticism a matter of decision and of active organisation. While with young sex the desire precedes the sexual acting, the decision for desire proceeds with mature sex,” Clement wrote, explaining that marital intimacy needs to be invited into long-term relationships. 

Take the risk.


Bibliography

Clement, Ulrich. “Erotic Traps.” Psychology Heute Journal, (2006)

Wojtyla, Karol. Love and Responsibility. Boston: Pauline Books & Media, 2013.

Marcel, Gabriel. The Mystery of the Family.