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Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Same Sex "Marriage," Natural Law and The New Apocalypse

Will Same Sex Couples Listen to Their "Children?"

by Susan Fox  

“He shall turn the hearts of fathers towards their children and the hearts of children towards their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a curse.” (Prophecy of Malachi verse 24)

On Oct 6, 2013, the people of the state of Colorado woke up, rubbed their eyes and found out same sex “marriage” was now a reality.

The US Supreme Court Gavel Will Come Down in June
Same Sex "Marriage" will be decided 
Truly their surprise was justified, for the legal arrangement came in through the Kitchen --  Kitchen v Herbert, that is. The Tenth Circuit Court approved a lower court’s determination that Utah’s ban on same-sex marriage was unconstitutional. The U.S. Supreme Court nodded and winked: None of my business. And so Colorado and five other states in the jurisdiction of the Tenth Circuit Court suddenly had legal same sex “marriage.”

When the same thing happened in Washington State, my elderly cousin Bob grumbled to me. “Susan, I can now (legally) marry a man, smoke dope and kill myself.” Thirty-seven states have legal same sex marriage, most through similar judicial shenanigans. Only three states in the Union have approved same-sex “marriage” by popular vote.

“We have won the argument over marriage. We have won 34 statewide elections (in favor of) traditional marriage ... even in liberal states like California.. Yet our votes are overturned by a combination of black-robed elites, craven corporations who have turned on their customers, the mainstream media, and cowardly GOP politicians,” wrote Austin Ruse, President of the Catholic Family and Human Rights Institute, in Crisis Magazine.

As in most states, the people of Colorado did not vote for same sex “marriage.” Colorado forcefully banned it from our state constitution in 2006 by a double-digit margin in favor of Colorado Amendment 43

Eighteen black robes forming a meathead court imposed the institution on us while deciding a case for nearby Utah.
Through deliberate neglect, the U.S. Supreme Court blithely overturned our state constitution without even hearing from us.

I live in Colorado. My rights have been trampled upon.

“Utah's prohibition on same-sex marriage conflicts with the United States Constitution's guarantees of equal protection and due process under the law. The State's current laws deny its gay and lesbian citizens their fundamental right to marry and, in so doing, demean the dignity of these same-sex couples for no rational reason. Accordingly, the court finds that these laws are unconstitutional,” so droned the imbecile court.

In fact, the court said prohibition of same-sex marriage failed arational basis review.” Rational? If it was rational, why didn’t our founding fathers mention it? Ironically, the Tenth Circuit Court failed my mother’srational basis review.” If she were still alive today she would say, “Susan, those people don’t have the sense that God gave a goose!” 

Virginia Marriage Supporters outside the U.S. 4th Circuit Court
wait in vain. Traditional Marriage was overturned July 28, 2014

Mankind has lost his bodily and spiritual identity. God made us a community of persons – male and female. “In the day when God created man, He made him in the likeness of God. He created them male and female, and He blessed them and named them Man in the day when they were created.” (Gen 5:1-2) But we are busy -- busy throwing out the other half of our human identity. We wish to live in isolation, not as a man, but as a segregated half of humanity -- either male or female. And the ultimate goal of the genderless identity movement is nothing short of the end of the human race.

“I grew up in an atmosphere where adult sexuality was a measure of people’s worthiness,” said Rivka Edelman in a Supreme Court filing on same sex marriage. Referring to her mother and her three same sex partners, she said, “Their sex and identity meant everything. To them heterosexuals meant nothing – breeding, low-level amoebas splitting in their conservative bedroom communities. Our house was overrun with newly minted lesbians planning their divorces and alimony strategies.”

Now on April 28, the U.S. Supreme Court will hold hearings to decide same sex marriage for four other states, Kentucky Michigan, Ohio and Tennessee. This very likely will be the case where same sex marriage is nationalized.  

The two women asking for legal marriage in this case have become the poster-child for gay “parenting.” 
Jayne Rowse and April DeBoer 
April DeBoer and Jayne Rowse are raising four special needs kids between the two of them and would like the same legal rights as any parent. God bless them.

Now come six adults raised by people who self identify as homosexual to say that same sex “marriage” is an injustice to the children of such a phony union. They are the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, long associated with the demise of empires that became corrupt.

They are injecting real rationality into the discussion. Same sex ”marriage” is supposed to rectify an alleged injustice against homosexuals, but in fact creates a new injustice. Marriage comes with the right to have children. People of the same sex cannot of themselves create children. They are not structurally designed to do so. They must raise your children or use surrogates to make them. Both acts are unjust. In fact, the six argue that same sex marriage legalizes trafficking in women and children.

Pope Francis 
Pope Francis is not silent on this matter. He has condemned genderless marriage at least three times, most recently in March, and at his regular Wednesday audience April 8, 2015, he defended the children caught in these unions and in divorce: “Children also pay the price for immature unions and irresponsible separations: they are the first victims; they suffer the outcome of a culture of exaggerated individual rights, and then the children become prematurely precocious. They often absorb the violence they are not able to “ward off” and before the very eyes of adults are forced to grow accustomed to degradation.”

The pope refers to the upbringing of self-identified “strange man” Robert Oscar Lopez and Rivka Edelman, raised by a “Jewish lesbian mother and her partners,” who are leading the charge to defend children before the US Supreme Court on April 28. Lopez calls himself a “strange man” because his
God's Advocate for Traditional Marriage,
Robert Oscar Lopez, who self identifies as bi-sexual
because of his confused upbringing
by same sex female couple 
 mother and her same sex partner raised him. Married now to a woman, he once only knew how to act like a woman and prostituted himself to men. He healed himself as an adult by pursuing a relationship with his long estranged father. Lopez and Edelman call themselves COGs, Children of Gays. I call them children raised by unchaste adults.

The two have just produced Jephthah’s Daughters: Innocent Casualties in the War for Family Equality. It’s an aptly named book. Few probably remember Jephthah, whose story appears in the book of Judges. Eager to overcome the stigma of the bastard son, he rashly vowed to God he would sacrifice whoever greeted him at the front door of his home if only he could win victory over the Ammonites. He won, but when he returned home, the one who loved him best -- his only child, a daughter – greeted him before any others. And with great sorrow, Jephthah killed her.

“Until now courts presumed that whatever gay couples wanted automatically would benefit the children placed in gay couples’ homes. No serious discussion has occurred in the courts with the focus on points where children and their gay guardians have divergent or even conflicting interests,” Lopez argues in his brief before the Supreme Court.

He argues that until now the courts have only heard from children who were still under the thumb of their same sex parents. And unfortunately children growing up in those segregated same-sex environments fear accusations of “homophobic.”

What is clear from Jephthah’s Daughters, which covers over 70 cases of same sex parenting, is that children’s feelings in these situations are repressed because of their adult care giver’s sensitivity to any mention of the opposite sex parent. “One COG, a boy conceived in the 1990s by a surrogate contract with a gay father, was taken to a lesbian psychiatrist who told him that his aching sadness on Mother’s Day was the result of homophobia. He was told to apologize to his gay father for having confided in the lesbian psychiatrist about his anger over not having a mother,” Lopez said.

“Gay marriage will allow adults to acquire custody of other people’s children and deny those children connections to their original father and mother,” Lopez added. He is particularly sensitive to people’s ethnic origins because he is the “son of a Puerto Rican lesbian and a Filipino man.” And Rivka Edelman is Jewish. “Gay marriage targets children of gay parents for discrimination,” Lopez concluded.

“Children learn to role play the part of living dolls,” said Rivka Edelman, who used her real name, B.N. Klein, in the court filing, “Our parents used us as little display objects. We existed only to make our parents look good, to feed the insatiable egos that were our parents. Does that sound like a happy childhood?”

“A child is neither a constitutional right nor the natural consequence of same-sex sexual relations, and a marriage license does not change biological reality.  The impact of forcing children to attribute their filial affections to non-parents is damaging to all involved, but women as a class bear the hardest burden,” Edelman continued.

“When gay men want children on demand, such a system requires women to either hyper-ovulate and sell their own genetic material or to carry children and then dissolve the natural bond between them and their offspring,” she told the court.

“Surrogate mothers’ other children must witness their mother being used as an incubator and their sibling being sent away and sold. When lesbians want children on demand, there is a loss imposed on the child and the excluded father.”

“Gay marriage imposes unequal burdens on women and denies women equal protection under the law,” Edelman said, adding that superovulation drugs used to get a woman’s egg have been linked to death and cancer. “Industrialized procreation is harmful to women. This is a multi-million dollar industry gearing up to create a sub-caste of breeder women.”

Though she claims to have zero interest in any religion, Edelman came to the same conclusion as the Catholic Church: “Children are not a right.” And I would add: “They are a gift to marriage.”

What is interesting about this whole mess is that while trying to protect so-called rights of same-sex couples, the courts go on creating injustices. Not just the surrogate mothers whose wombs are rented to homosexual couples, not just the
On the issue of Same Sex "Marriage"
the scales are tipped unjustly 
children raised by same sex strangers, but also the institution of marriage itself and religious freedom are threatened, Jephthah Daughters reveals.

Statisticians and sociologists studying the effect of legalized same sex marriage in Spain concluded it cheapened marriage. There was a real decline in marriages after it was instituted. And in one year there was  a 75 percent increase in divorces due to the law. But the group most affected were people who were married less than a year – their divorce rate went up 330 percent! The researchers attributed it to creating options – same sex marriage and easier divorce -- which “trivialized marriage.”

In Canada, the religious persecution from instituting same sex marriage was felt immediately. Civil marriage commissioners who refused to preside over such arrangements lost their jobs, and the Roman Catholic Knights of Columbus were fined for refusing to rent their facilities for post same-sex “wedding” celebrations.

Speech is no longer free in Canada. “Many of those who have persisted in voicing their dissent have been subjected to investigations by human rights commissions and proceedings before human right tribunals,” said Professor Bradley W. Miller in his paper, “Same-Sex Marriage Ten Years on: Lessons from Canada.” He added that those who are poor or poorly educated and without institutional affiliation have suffered the most. They have been forced to pay fines, make apologies and undertake never to speak on such matters again. Miller’s paper was quoted in Jephthah’s Daughers.

In the United States, persecution has already begun. And the little people have been the hardest hit.  Wedding florists, photographers and Christian bakeries have been fined and forced out of business.  This is an amazing amount of injustice coming out of an institution that is supposed to rectify an injustice!

But there’s a reason for that. My husband, Lawrence Fox, knows the answer: “Any time you do not use something for its natural purpose, you create injustice.”

So according to Natural Law, each thing has its own natural purpose. Go get yourself a delicious dessert – how about a brownie? Hold the brownie to your eye. Can you taste it with your eye?

Ouch! The brownie hurts in my eye. That’s an injustice!  Eyes can’t taste things. The purpose of the eye is to see. Look at the brownie. Can you see it? Yes, I can.

So now pop the brownie in your mouth. Yum. Guess the purpose of the mouth. No injustice there.

Now let’s look at marriage. What is the purpose of marriage? I know some young Muslim guys on Twitter told me its purpose was pleasure. It’s true that’s part of sexual relations. But if that’s the only purpose of sex, then injustices crop up like prostitution and rape. Those are injustices created when the sexual act is not used according to its proper natural purpose. 

In marriage, however, two people are able to form a very strong personal bond to last a lifetime. Children are a natural consequence of this kind of pairing. And a strong bond between two structurally complementary adults allows the children to grow up in a secure and loving environment in which they know their own identity. They know who is their mother, and who is their father.

No injustices result from this pairing unless the parents get a divorce. This “irresponsible separation,” as Pope Francis told us, causes children to “suffer the outcome of a culture of exaggerated individual rights.” As in the case of same sex “marriage,” the children’s needs are put aside to satisfy the selfish desires of adults.  (I understand some divorces are necessary to protect the wife or child from abuse.)

It’s true that homosexual unions do form bonds on a natural level because of the bonding hormone Oxytocin, which is released in the sexual act. But two people of the same sex who care about one another are friends. Introducing sexual activity into the friendship creates an injustice – just like sticking a brownie in your eye. “Those who share a vested interest in vice falsely claim the fair name of friendship, because one who fails to love is not a friend,” according to Aelred of Rievaulx, who wrote “Spiritual Friendship” in the 12th century.

“But when so much sweetness is experienced in such empty friendship, which lust pollutes, avarice corrupts, or wantonness defiles, just imagine the sweetness to be experienced in this other friendship: the more righteous, chaste, and open it is, the more it is carefree, enjoyable and happy,” he wrote, taking aim at same sex liaisons. I can’t tell you how many modern accounts I’ve read of young men who left the homosexual lifestyle and reunited with one of their lovers as a chaste friend. They said they were much happier in the relationship when sex was not involved.
Little girl at Toronto Pride Parade heartbreakingly shocked by
undressed men in the parade. Children of Same-Sex unions
report being taken to nude gay beaches, cleaning feces off their
fathers' sheets, having their mothers inordinately interested in their
own sexuality at a very young age. I removed the
portion of the picture with the nude male by request. You can
see the whole picture here. 
And that’s why we call “sin” missing the mark. A same sex couple aims to love each other, but they miss the mark by introducing sexual activity into the relationship. And the children caught in these homosexual households suffer enormously. Mainly, a same sex union creates a highly sexualized environment, and children's innocence is violated. Now the "children" have grown up and made their voices heard. I wonder if the people who advocate for same sex “marriage” will listen?

“My home life was not traditional nor conventional. I suffered because of it, in ways that are difficult for sociologists to index. Both nervous and yet blunt, I would later seem strange even in the eyes of gay and bisexual adults who had little patience for someone like me. I was just as odd to them as I was to straight people,” Lopez opined in a recent article in Life Site News.
Robert Lopez 

“Life is hard when you are strange. Even now, I have very few friends and often feel as though I do not understand people because of the unspoken gender cues that everyone around me, even gays raised in traditional homes, takes for granted. Though I am hard working and a quick learner, I have trouble in professional settings because co-workers find me bizarre.” Lopez and the other children raised by same sex partners say that the damage done to them, as children, will haunt them to the end of their lives.

I highly recommend reading Jephthah’s Daughters. You will never again just shrug your shoulders and say, “Well what they do in their same sex relationship is none of my business.”

Since this was written, the U.S. Supreme Court legalized Same Sex "Marriage" for the whole country on June 26, 2015 (Black Friday) Read SAME SEX "MARRIAGE:" Another Chapter in Grimm's Fairy Tales 

Did you enjoy this article? Perhaps you would also enjoy  A Child's Right to Mom and Dad: Why Kids of Gays Oppose Gay Adoption. 


  1. After my parents died when I was a little less than five, I lived with a minister and his family. He banned any discussion of my family: I was his and must behave as such. The heartbreak and damage was excruciating. Years of work and the grace of God brought healing but I still have difficulty with close relationships.

    I had thought my experience unique and that the minister was a rare monster. He wasn't. We're surrounded by such monsters now and they are often such nice people. Children need their parents and if for some reason that is possible, they need to be able to acknowledge the loss. To create children who will never have their basic need to love their parents considered, let alone met, is unconscionable. But then that's what selfishness is.

    1. Drusilla, Thank you so much for your comment. I am very sorry for your loss. My father died when I was four and my mother didn't let me go to the funeral. (She was trying to protect me) And that caused me enormous pain, which I had to work out over the decades. However, I was privileged in that his loss was recognized, and I was told he was a good man. I wrote about my pain in the poem: "No death rituals: Miscarriage has no funeral." Besides the lack of funeral for my Dad, I had two miscarriages. And they are in the poem also: http://christsfaithfulwitness.blogspot.com/2014/11/no-death-rituals.html#.VTknF1z0iIm Funerals, sitting by the body, acknowledging our grief is a way to contain it. Otherwise it comes out in other strange ways. I used to have dreams about what I imagined my father's funeral was like. And I saw him coming and going from the grave (in my dreams) especially at the time other loved ones died. I wrote about this in "Cradle for Atheism: Life Without Father"
      http://christsfaithfulwitness.blogspot.com/2014/01/cradle-for-atheism-life-without-father.html#.VTknv1z0iIk God bless you dear. Susan Fox

  2. From a secular point of view I agree with the principles expressed in Susan's article.

    If humanity evolved male and female for no other purpose than to propagate itself, then children must be part of a male/female based family unit to develop properly.

    Chris Woodford. England @crimbo51

    I have many friends and colleagues who are homosexual and I support their rights to live together. None of these have expressed any intention or desire to raise children. Some of them have children from previous heterosexual marriages, and these children have contact with them, but do not live with them.

    These couples do however seem to have an emptiness within them that they satisfy by filling their homes and lives with cats and dogs, who they treat as, and refer to, as their children.

  3. Having spent my teen years with a "gay" father, I can attest to the damage that was done as a result of dealing with his other problems that are so much a part of the homosexual lifestyle such as alcoholism, porn and promiscuity.